I have counseled many people that have been broken and confused by spiritual parenting relationships. Being a spiritual child and having the privilege of being a spiritual parent, I share firsthand insights on the truth that spiritual parenting relationships are not perfect, can be challenging, and take investment and hard work. They can be healthy, productive, fruitful, and blossom into all God requires them to be.
So many assume spiritual covenant relationships are about them – what they want and need. Or they believe they are about healing from natural mother and father wounds. Though these factors have their place, spiritual parenting relationships have the heart of God for one another. God gives the spiritual child and the spiritual parent his heart and eyes (vision) for one another and the grace to carry, empower, and journey in covenant relationship with one another.
God guides and sets the standards for the relationship. What the parties may get away with in a natural relationship should and will be exposed, rebuked, and corrected in a spiritual relationship. This is because the covenant of spiritual relationships is designed to reject sin, the world, the mediocre, the lukewarm, the mixed, the borderline, and devils. The covenant is designed for each person to spiritually actualize into living in a true cultivated environment of what God originally designed for relationships and families before the fall of Adam and Eve. This manual provides a balanced biblical perspective of spiritual parenting relationships. It is written to address the myths, truths, challenges, hurts, traumas, realities, blessings, and God-ordained perspective and wisdom keys to understanding and journeying in healthy spiritual covenant relationships.
“For if you should have ten thousand guardians in Christ, yet not many fathers; for in Christ Jesus, I have begotten you through the gospel (1Corinthians 4:15 Literal Bible).”
After reading and digesting (chewing on) Dr. Taquetta Baker’s new book release “Understanding Spiritual Parenting Relationships,” I realize that there is a famine or shortage of true spiritual parents in the Body of Christ today. There are many Believers that have yet to “divinely connect” to a spiritual mother or spiritual father, or both, and experience being “begotten through the Gospel.”
The Church is full of teachers, guardians, or coaches but spiritual parenting calls for labor pains, contractions, heartache, stretch marks, and sleepless nights of intercession, time, tears, counseling, deliverance and fighting demons over your spiritual sons and daughters. It could take years to birth a spiritual son or daughter through the Gospel. I do not know of any seminary or denomination that teaches on spiritual parenting relationship dynamics. But this book does.
Again Dr. Baker has birthed in a precious tool for the Church that we so desperately needed. The book put the art of spiritual parent into an everyday language that is palatable to help mature the body of Christ. We have become a “foster parent” Church; not the spiritual parent, but the foster parent in the spirit that loves taking “control and the credit” for the success we did not birth as churches and leaders.”
Foster parents in the Spirit rarely adopt. Foster parents in the Spirit are known to be fleshy, curses, cripples and crushes foster children. For this sin, the Church must repent before they can become true spiritual parents. It is time to become adoptive parents in the family of God.
Dr. Baker is being used by the Lord to bring understanding to the need for healthy spiritual parenting relationships and she has modeled being a spiritual mother herself. I enjoyed the chapters written by her spiritual daughters and how they honor her life being poured out so that they could be matured in the Gospel.
Dr. Taquetta profoundly reveals how a potential spiritual son or daughter can hang around a potential spiritual parent and never be birthed. She says, “They can partake of your life, revelation, counsel, prayers, gifts, calling, even work in your ministry and advance in their destiny, but never be birthed where Christ is formed in them - where they become the DNA of God through you!”
As I reflect on my natural pregnancies, they were all different. Not one birthing or begetting is the same. God has to anoint you and prepare you to be a spiritual parent for each one. There are complications that arise in parenting each person. Dr. Baker lists a multitude of scenarios and situations that can arise in the spiritual parenting relationship. The greatest complications tend to be rebellion and rejection. Rebellion and rejection is the root cause of most delayed and arrested spiritual development in spiritual parenting relationships. Unless God gives the spiritual parent “grace upon grace and love” we would not succeed.
I wanted to save my testimony for last. For as I read this book, and I have been a spiritual mother to many, I realized that for years, I did not have a spiritual mother. I had many mentors. I had some spiritual midwives. I had several teachers and pastoral leaders and intercessors that prayed for me. I had a natural mother, but she did not beget me in the Spirit. I did realize at the reading of this book that your spiritual parent has got to “perceive where God is taking you and prepare you for that destiny.” It was not until I met Archbishop Mark Dubois and he approached me and revealed the plan of God that had not been unveiled yet. He was an answer to my prayers and my longings to fulfill an emptiness in my soul. God will send you a spiritual parent (sometimes a mother and a father). God sent my spiritual father at a desperate time in my spiritual development. My spiritual father said he would walk with me through this new place in God. He and his wife did walk with me and birthed me in the next seven years into the place I am walking in today. In that birthing place, a painful, seven years I went through deliverance and healing and impartation and a new place of revelation in order to be a “well of pure water for others to drink from in Christ.” You cannot just read about being a spiritual parent, you have to “see it demonstrated.” I saw it demonstrated in the life of my spiritual father, and I began to imitate him as He imitated Christ.
Spiritual parents must be anointed and able to birth in, protect, cover, and deposit years spiritually and naturally into their spiritual sons and daughters for the Kingdom. That is why I can highly recommend this book by Apostle Dr. Taquetta Baker, for God has given her insight into the DNA of her own sons and daughters. This book will teach you how to walk in true covenant relationships. Like the Apostle Paul, Apostle Taquetta Baker is one that can be imitated by her walk and way of life in Christ Jesus:
1Corinthians 4:16-17 NIV: Therefore I urge you to imitate me. For this reason I have sent to you Timothy, my son whom I love, who is faithful in the Lord. He will remind you of my way of life in Christ Jesus, which agrees with what I teach everywhere in every church.
Bishop Dr. Jackie L. Green
JGM Enternational, Redlands, California